- Getting a text message (accidentally sent, and not meant for me) from the abusive former friend last Wednesday.
- Getting a text message from the abusive former friend last Wednesday whose number I had blocked.
- Checking online and seeing that the numbers I had blocked had been erased. MEANING: I knew that if my rapist texted or called, it would come through, because I didn't know what the number was anymore to block it.
- Calling Verizon and being told that they only block numbers for 90 day periods, then reset your security controls. Asking what the fuck, and being told I would need to pay if I wanted to be able to permanently block a number. Getting pissed and saying no, because that is a shitty policy.
- NOT FIVE FUCKING DAYS LATER, getting a text message from my rapist.
- Giving the fuck up. Realizing there is no 100% guarantee on my safety and security, and letting it just fucking go.
Monday, November 22, 2010
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Ai me lady that is some shit. It's actually why I ended up changing my cell number and eventually getting rid of it entirely. Which is in no way a good or permanent solution, but the one I'm making do with currently. I think someone should get on inventing some sort of secret feminist series of pneumatic tubes. Holding a good thought for you.
ReplyDeleteThanks, love. It actually hasn't thrown me that much - I mean, being completely safe and being completely in control - that is an illusion. And one I really needed for a while. At the moment, though, I don't.
ReplyDeleteAnd yeah, you would think there would be a better way to handle this kind of thing. I mean, Verizon, wtf? I wonder if all wireless services are like this.
What in the fuck. 90 days?! Because anyone who calls you enough to warrant blocking will forget and leave you alone after 90 days, obviously! Fucking Verizon!
ReplyDeleteGlad you are not feeling too thrown by the unexpected intrusion, though. I have an, uh, internet cup of tea for you.
Re other service providers, I'm not sure whether mine (a Canadian one) even offers that much—I hunted around on their website and nowhere was it mentioned. :S
wow, this even offended me! I remember the first time I read one of your post was when your rapist was trying to call you and how that affected you.
ReplyDeleteI really don't have an answer nor the right words to say, but do know that we are all cheering for you. And that policy from Verizon sucks, too.
Thanks, folks! I appreciate it. It worries me more what this means for people trying to protect themselves in general - I mean, you have to pay to be safe? Ugh.
ReplyDeleteI am ok, though! Like, I had a good day, and I am having a good night (WE JUST TURNED IN THE LAST OF OUR CLINIC WORK WOOOOO) and I just watched a very sweet movie about being in love (Were the World Mine. And it is gay! Bonus points!) and so, this text message, it came at the perfect time, you know?
But seriously, Verizon, you suck.
I'm swiftly coming to the conclusion that all phone companies suck. Or rather, that all companies suck in general, because they tend to be far more concerned with profit than with the safety or privacy of their customers. This is something I've been noting with greater frequency every year. Safety and privacy of their customers seems to be something they only care about when it becomes something that will dent their profits if they DON'T start initiating policies for it. ><;;
ReplyDeletefirst, oh my god that is terrible and, also, what losers.
ReplyDeletebut second: I have verizon and I was under the impression that verizon does not allow you to block numbers at all! So this is actually extremely helpful to find out. 90 days > nothing. I had just turned off text messages completely because I thought that was my only choice.